Subject : Just read it and then move on with life

The question was always there and has been repeatedly asked in different versions like:

“So is it not time you settled down?”

“When is your marriage?”

“You are not married yet?”

Etcetera, Etcetera

It is a genuine question and I do not disagree to it but then I prefer that it is not asked. No problems in people asking though but then most of who ask this query has no relation/effects what so ever the answer may be. I mean does a Tom, Dick or Harry get his lifeline extended or shortened depending on my answer? I do not know for I was never interested in this astrological pomp and fare.

Anyways, A few weeks ago it so happened that I received a mail from a person who I even forgot ever existed in that last decade or so. In that mail I read what I presume can be summed up as a partial answer to some of the queries mentioned above.

NB: I have edited this letter (with the help of MS Word) because I just hate the jst,tat, tis, u,v, frm, gr8 and all that jazz. The letter has been posted in this blog after getting an approval from the writer and the people mentioned in the letter).

“Hey Dufus

I wonder when the last time was when someone called you by that name. I guess somewhere in the turn of the 21^st Century. I am pretty much sure that your eyes must have gone all wide when you saw my name show up in your Inbox along with that subject line. I am alive and kicking. Settled in UAE and working for a banking firm after completing my MBA in Finance from Europe. So it seems you finally did exorcise yourself from doom and accepted that she is a ‘dead duck’.

After nearly 4 years after 2001 and you got get her out of the system. I never ever thought you would get out of it. She was much more than just another female and I very well knew that the mental pain of her passing away would have disoriented you but still you got over her in 4 years. The last I heard about you from Niki way back in 2002 saying that you were pushing along with life but still miserably broken from Shezu’s death. Had it not been for Shezu’s persistence me, Niki and Mathew would not have cut off from you. Oh by the way, Niki is in Delhi now, she has 3 kids!! And Mathew is in Qatar. He married about 2 years ago and now he is happily single. Well, what can I say, he lived by his heart and soul and I guess his wife was too much worried about the size of her bedroom and color of her lingerie. No kids, just a pain of losing his most beloved gift in life after just 13 months of good life. He loved her, he loved his life, he loved the people around him while she, I guess, just loved bedroom dimensions and lingerie colors. He has been rather elusive ever since. The last time I met him I came to know that he still owned a cell phone and an email id, no TV, no computer, not even an mp3 player, it was just him and his single bedroom apartment that had two chairs, a small table, bed and a well set up kitchen and lots of books, papers, magazines and all. He is all happy and fine and the best part of all was that he found life to be more interesting and relaxed now since he feels that he has faced the worse in terms of “mental stress”. When we met up, something in us made us think you. I took me a while to figure out you will be searchable in Google. :P

By the looks of things you have changed and that also for the better. You are writing and sharing it to the world just like you promised her that you will once you get over her. Yours photos in orkut, the way you have presented yourself in the online world has taken me by surprise. It seems you have become a talker and blabber mouth. Looks like you are enjoying life finally and totally in love with yourself. Great going champ, she always believed that you would ‘evolve’ one day ;).Enjoy it bro for you deserve it. I know how much pain you had and was worried about you. Though in some of your writings I can see the glimpses of your pain but then I guess it will be there every now and then after all we are humans and not erasable DVDs: P.Seeing how you have turned out and what Mathew has ended up. I guess life is better when you let yourself go free. You were miserable but in love when Shezu was there, Mathew was also in love but was miserable. It could have taken you both out but instead you fellows got over them and have moved on. I know this can be bit too irrational but you fellows should be single all through your life. You people are these strange births that have all the right to love, respect and enjoy the world around you no matter what you get in return. You are these free souls who have nothing to lose or gain for they have tasted and learned many a thing in life than a normal person no matter how short lived those things were. A life partner in your lives now will tie you to down and will make you recollect and may bring back some memories in your life. I say this because of the joy I have in me on seeing that my good buddy has actually made the most of life when it was giving him a bad time.

God Bless you Dufus.

Sunny regards

Zafeer

PS: I am married. Her name is Rasheen. Our daughter’s name is Zara (18 months now).”